Session 2 addresses steps 3 & 4: the De-escalation process and placing conflict and distance in a clear attachment frame - accessing and expanding the longing for connection and the emotional vulnerability that have typically fueled cycles of conflict and distance. Key in this weekend are learning to recognize and develop the leading edge of painful emotions to help couples appreciate how vulnerability feeds negative cycles and to see their pattern as an attempt to deal with disconnection. Learning goals are 1) to recognize entry points for primary emotions, evoke and heighten them and place those vivid emotions in the context of the cycle, 2) to develop strong skills in placing interactions, emotions and conflict in lucid attachment language and 3) proficiency in setting up and processing stage 1 enactments.
CS session 3 focuses on the Withdrawer Re-engagement process of steps 5, 6 & 7. The emphasis here is on heightening and expanding attachment emotions core to Withdrawers’ experience and creating the powerful enactments that key to the Withdrawer becoming fully accessible , responsive and engaged – both with partner and self . This is the first of the two transformational stage 2 change events and paves the way for later pursuer softening. Learning goals include 1) heightening emotion in-the-moment with the use of strong therapist presence and vivid language, 2) creating and processing of powerful enactments with both partners, and 3) facilitating the Withdrawer’s clear expression of attachment needs.
The final weekend of Core Skills focuses on the Pursuer Softening process, the culmination of Stage 2 and the lead-in to Stage 3. Once again, we’ll be working on steps 5, 6 & 7 as we address the heightening and expanding of emotion to orchestrate the vivid enactments that culminate in the Pursuer’s ‘softening reach’ and the re-engaged Withdrawer’s accepting and supportive response. We then wrap up with an overview of Stage 3, the consolidation and integration phase, when couples are supported to find new solutions to more pragmatic concerns and begin to create new narratives characterized by experiences of increased trust, security and engagement.
The Externship in Emotionally Focused Therapy is a 4-day intensive training in the theory, interventions and practice of EFT with couples. In addition to learning how attachment theory informs our understanding of couple distress, you will learn the steps to guide couples from conflict and disengagement to strong, secure bonds. Participants also practice key interventions in supportive leader-led role play sessions. This training gives you skills you can immediately implement in your couple work. Our goal is nothing less than to transform the way you work with couples.
28 CEU’s are available for Social Workers, Counselors, Psychologists and Marriage & Family Therapists. The charge for the CEU certificate is $25.
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