Check out these two videos by Melissa Divaris Thompson, LMFT, who speaks from the point of view of people who tend to use anxious and avoidant attachment strategies.
In the video linked below, Melissa articulates the attachment dilemma of anxious pursuing partners, highlighting some of their action tendencies and the “why” underneath them. This could be a helpful video to share with clients who would like to understand their/their partner’s pursuit in their cycle.
https://www.instagram.com/reel/DSOF3k0jNzS/?igsh=cnR6eDhxeTBsbWJp
In the next video (linked below), Melissa articulates the attachment dilemma of an avoidant partner, highlighting some of the origins of their avoidant tendencies, how their attachment strategy shows up in the negative cycle with their partner, and how they can stay connected with their partner when they’re wanting to move away. Similar to her post about anxious partners, this post could be a helpful one to share with clients wanting to understand their/their partner’s avoidant attachment strategies.
https://www.instagram.com/reel/DSf8ggSAR9l/?igsh=aXhoNTRkM2M2d3l2
